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What Your Yoga Sequencing Style Says About You

This blog post is one in a series of articles all month long on the topic of Sequencing To The Individual hosted by Kate over at You & the yoga mat. Many awesome yoga experts are contributing to the blog tour throughout the month. Be sure to check out Karin Monaco’s post on Reaching the Individual in Group Classes. And check in with Samantha Harrison for tomorrow’s post, too. Want to get all the #sequencingblogtour posts? Use the hashtag #sequencingblogtour on Instagram and swing by here to get emails with each post to your inbox all month long.



Whether you’re someone who unrolls your mat at home or a seasoned yoga teacher who leads multiple classes a day, the order in which you put your poses during an asana session can say a lot about your approach to yoga—and even about your approach to life as a whole. As a longtime yoga class hopper (in more than a decade of practice, I’ve yet to commit to one teacher or style of yoga) I pay attention to the pose sequence to tell me a lot about a particular teacher’s personality, training, and so much more. And paying attention to how you sequence and identifying the WHY can be a great self-reflection practice, too.

Here are some sequencing styles and what I believe it says about where you’re coming from.

You always put the same poses in the same order, always.  There are several schools of yoga that teach the same poses in the same order every. single. time. There’s a good chance if you always practice the same poses in the same order, your training is in one of those schools. What it might say about you: If you gravitate toward those styles, you’re probably someone who loves structure, loves knowing what’s coming next, and loves having a plan laid out for you so you can concentrate other things such as those tiny little adjustments that make such a HUGE difference in your postures or connecting to your breath.

You always put the same pose groups in the same order. A traditional sequences in this lane would look something like this: Warm up stretches, Sun Salutations, standing poses, hip openers, backbends, inversions, Savasana. You may choose different standing poses, backbends, and inversions every time you practice or teach, but you usually stick with this general order for your sessions. What it might say about you: You like tradition, structure, and having a plan. You don’t want to change something that has been proven for many years to be an effective way of approaching sequencing, but you also like having the freedom to mix things up a bit, be creative, and adapt the practice to how you (or your students) are feeling that day.

Work up to a different challenge pose every time. So you love deciding on a pose you’d like to work on, then letting every pose leading up to offer an action or energy that will help you nail it? That might mean you work predominant on backbending one day or arm balancing another. What it might say about you: You love a challenge, and you like to be fully prepared to meet that challenge when the time is right. Yoga is a source of confidence, connection, and creativity for you—and you thrive most when you see yourself progressing.

You wing it. Maybe you hate planning, and you prefer to be spontaneous. Or maybe you’re just really tuned into what you need in the present moment, so instead of painstakingly planning out your asana session, you just, well, wing it. When you feel like a side stretch, you do it. When you’re ready to rest,  you call it a day and settle in for Savasana. What it might say about you: There’s definitely something to be said for going with the flow and responding to your body’s (or sometimes your students’ bodies) needs as they arise. If this is your predominant sequencing style, it could mean you’re super intuitive. It could also mean you’re in an experimentation stage, where you’re testing many different things to see what works for you. Or maybe you’ve just got a rebellious streak and you love questioning the status quo.

Of course, most of us don’t do things ONE way all the time. We are all living, breathing, dynamic creatures, after all.

In sequencing, I do all of the above. I’m not an Ashtanga or Bikram practitioner (styles that follow the same sequence every time), but I do often get almost obsessed with my own little sequence of poses and practice them over and over again, until I’m ready to move on. I usually sequence my yoga classes either in the way I learned is traditional or working up to a challenge pose. And when I unroll my mat at home alone, I love winging it and do what feels good.

The most important thing to remember, I think, is that there’s no right or wrong way to sequence poses, as long as you have a good reason behind it and you’re willing to change your ways as the situation (either in your life or in your teaching) changes.

What do you think? Do you agree with my assessments? Or do you have a completely different reason to sequence your classes the way you do? I’d love your feedback!

5 Yoga Tips to Help Get Your Toddler to Sleep

My daughter is 3 years old now. That means that, for the most part, for 3 years (and a couple months) every time this child has needed to nap or sleep, I’ve been with her, rocking her, holding her hand, watching her eyelids get heavier as she drifts off to sleep. It’s a beautiful thing watching a sleepy toddler drift off into a peaceful sleep. It means she’s relaxed, calm, comfortable, and—well, I’ll be honest, it means I will have at least a few moments of time when I can just sit in peace. Just a few moments before either she wakes up from an afternoon nap or before I have to hit the hay myself. During that time, I don’t have to answer “But.. Why!? Why is there a moon? Why is it night? Why does the pool close when it’s dark? Why can’t we just go swimming anyway? Why? Why? WHY?” A few moments of not pretending to eat plastic food or reading the same story I’ve read aloud 14 times already today. A few moments to do things I like to do, things I once took for granted like showering, eating lunch, answering emails, or spending some much needed time on my yoga mat.

I love my girl more than anything in the entire world, but being a parent is draining in every way. So I won’t apologize for looking forward to nap and bedtime so much that any resistance to sleep sends me dangerously close to a nervous breakdown. This is especially true if the resistance comes at a high stress time already (and, of course, that’s exactly when these things always seem to happen.)

Every yoga mama knows that yoga can really help to calm a restless mind and body, so I don’t know why it took me so long to start integrating yoga into my little one’s bedtime and nap time routines. It doesn’t always work, but it has helped make bedtime a much more pleasant process for both of us.

Here’s what has made a big difference for us. Let me know what works for you!

Add a calming kids yoga book to your nighttime routine. There’s no reasoning with a toddler. So when my sweet one says “Can’t I just skip my nap today?” I’ve given up on explaining all the reasons why rest is important. Instead I’ve started reaching for my newest sleepy time tool, a new book by Miriam Gates, Good Night Yoga: A Pose-by-Pose Bedtime Story. This book has beautiful illustrations of children practicing yoga poses. My daughter absolutely loves making the shapes along with them while I read, which I think is key because it lets her work off any excess energy she has before she settles in to rest. We both laugh every time she falls out of Tree Pose (“This is a hard one!,” she says with a laugh.)

Guide her into a restorative pose. My little one loves putting her Legs up the Wall (or in this case, up the side of her toddler bed) before she transitions into actually laying down in it.

Lead her in a guided visualization. The best part about Good Night Yoga is the visualization at the end of the book, which takes her on an adventure floating through the sky. I use my soothing “yoga teacher voice,” add a few more descriptions to make it longer (she always suggests additional details, too), and if it doesn’t put her to sleep by the time we’re done, I definitely notice a calmer, more relaxed kid who is much closer to drifting off to sleep than before we started.

Encourage slow, deep breaths. I often use the Even Wave of Breath technique described by Yoga International writer Mira Binzen here (there are some other good tips there, too!). I don’t have any origami boats (and I have no interest in adding origami to my to-do list), so I just ask my wee one to imagine her belly is a body of water and there’s a tiny sailboat resting on her belly button. I explain that every breath she takes makes a wave, so it’s important to make the breaths slow and steady—that way the tiny people in the tiny boat won’t get wet or thrown overboard.

When all else fails, try compassion. Some nights my daughter just can’t go to sleep. Other nights, she drifts off, only to sit up and whine the second I tip toe to the door to try to leave the room. Those night when I can’t get away sometimes make me want to scream out in exasperation. Of course, that doesn’t help anything. So I try to take a few deep breaths myself, remember what it was like to be an energetic kid in a world full of wonder and excitement, and love her even more. That makes me a calmer, happier mom.

See also …

The Reality of Morning Exercise with a Toddler

My Toddler is a Yogic Sage

My Almost 2-Year-Old Taught Me Pranayama

6 Reasons Every Mama to Be Needs a Yoga Ball

Yoga ≠ Unicorns

Dearest Yoga Instagram Superstars,

Could we have a word?

I understand that you’re trying to inspire me by showing me gorgeous photos of your practice, and I really do love watching you press into Handstand on the beach at sunset. (Really. I mean it. You’re so strong, graceful, and lovely and that SHOULD be celebrated!)

Image by David Yglesias

But there’s one thing that is driving me absolutely nuts: You see, yoga has nothing to do with the illustrations of neon mermaids, unicorns, fairies, and butterflies on the Lisa Frank trapper keeper you had when you were a little girl. (Are you even old enough to remember Lisa Frank? No matter. That’s not really the point.) The yoga practice that I love is not all about imaginary unicorns, fairies and butterflies, OK? My yoga practice is, well, that shit is the REAL DEAL.

Don’t get me wrong. I understand where you’re coming from. You have a thing for Ariel. You love daydreaming. (So do I!) But while you’re probably imagining that your references to mystical creatures emerging from the fog inspire me to believe that anything is impossible… it just doesn’t do it for me. Maybe it did … just a little bit … for like a week. But, Darling, yoga is so much more than that. And the 4,392,057 bajillion people who follow you to for yoga inspiration deserve to see more than the beautiful, shiny surface of the practice.

To me (and I think I can speak for the other archaic, 30+ year olds just recently joining you on Instagram) yoga isn’t about believing in things that don’t exist. It isn’t about smoke and mirrors, or putting a pretty filter on a photo of a poorly aligned pose.

To me, yoga is the opposite of all that. It’s about getting rid of the smoke and mirrors, taking off the make up, bravely facing (and sometimes sharing) your battle wounds and your stretch marks head on. It’s about loving your body even though you’ve got cellulite. It’s about loving your life even when it’s not glamorous, and especially when things are boring. It’s about coming to terms with the fact that there are no freakin’ unicorns, Sister!—and being OK with that.

Yoga is about learning to be completely OK with this REAL, imperfect world we live in—even when it’s ugly. It’s about making meaningful changes where we can, and accepting and letting go of the things we can’t change. It’s about understanding that no number of inspirational quotes taken out of context are going to take the place of real, meaningful connections between us, our body and mind, each other, and the world around us. Real life often makes for some really ugly photography, but there’s magic in authenticity—It might not win you any Instagram followers, but the reward for being unapologetically YOU is far deeper and more beautiful than that anyway.

Thanks for reading my rant. (And if yoga really is about unicorns and mermaids to you, then keep doing your thing—not that you need anyone’s permission… I just hope you’ll be doing it because you’re sharing something you love and not just what you think is popular.)

Love,
Erica

6 Reasons to Schedule a Private Yoga Session

Photo by The Yoga People

For a practice that’s all about the individual, a group yoga class can be pretty darn impersonal. The teacher’s attention is split between 20 students (sometimes a few more or a few less), trying to remember all of the special needs in the room, keeping the music on track, and a million other things. Whether you’re a new student or a 20-year veteran, a series of private lesson with a skilled yoga teacher can be the thing that helps you take your practice to the next level by putting the focus ALL ON YOU, which is really how it should be. Here are just a few reasons why you should schedule a series of private yoga lessons today.

1. Address issues that are personal to you, your life, and your practice. You might have heard that yoga isn’t just about the moves you do when you’re on your yoga mat. It’s a lifestyle—a whole system of practices that can help you get your shit together and keep your head on straight. If you’ve only been going to group classes, you might or might not know that because most group classes tend to be all about the body with a few generalizations about yoga philosophy that would relate to anybody and everybody thrown in. In a private yoga class, your teacher can really dig in and help you develop a plan to help you with your aching back, that anxiety issue, chronic stress, your monkey mind, your sugar addiction, whatever!

2. Learn new tricks for your Instagram feed. I’m kidding! Sort of. Here’s the thing. If you go to a group yoga class, your teacher is going to tailor her instructions to what most of the people in the room. Since her main goal is to keep EVERYONE safe, she’s not going to suggest you try out some crazy fancy inversion, even if you both know you could rock it out. If you have an advanced asana practice, you’re going to hit a plateau going only to group classes. (And while you COULD watch tutorials of those fancy-pants poses online, it’s not a good idea… Trust me on this one, I speak from experience. You need someone to spot you. You might be really surprised what you’re able to do!

3. Take competition out of the equation. We all know we’re not supposed to compare ourselves to the person on the mat next to us. We know we’re not suppose to admire the way her abs look in her bra top or be annoyed that she floats so effortlessly into Handstand when we’re doing well to even get our feet over our heads, thank you very much. We all do it. (Don’t even try to tell me you never do it…I don’t believe you.) Working one-on-one with your teacher takes away the temptation to compare your practice to someone else’s and either put yourself down or build your ego in the process. If you struggle with this (and I think we all do to some degree) take a few private sessions and just notice if there’s an energy shift.

4. Get to know your teacher (and let her get to know you!) Maybe your teacher knows you name and any injuries you’re working with, but there’s only so much you can learn about a person in those 5 precious minutes before and after a group yoga class. Developing a relationship with your teacher where you get beyond the small talk that happens before class is a surefire way to deepen your practice because it means your teacher will be able to better tailor your practice to you, whether it’s in a private yoga lesson or a group class.

5. Fit your class into YOUR busy schedule, in a place that’s convenient (and inspiring) for you.  Ever had difficulty carving out time to get to a yoga studio? Unless you schedule your private at a park or beach (which many teachers are happy to do!) a private session often means it’s your teacher, not you, who sits in traffic, make a dash for parking, and walks five blocks to your home and office. That means an hourlong session, will actually take you only an hour to complete—instead of two! For me, this is a MAJOR perk of private yoga classes.

6. Renew your commitment to your practice. When you first start taking yoga you might rent a mat from the studio (or GASP! even just use the ones they have on hand at the gym you go to). But after a while, you realize you like this “yoga” enough to splurge on your own mat. It’s a small commitment—unless you buy one of those amazing Manduka mats—but it’s a gesture that you’re serious about your practice. After you’ve been practicing a while longer, you might buy some props, fancy pants, start taking yoga selfies, and before you know it you’re a part of the club. Welcome! I hope you enjoyed the Kool Aid (it’s a lot like green juice). But we need to talk. You’re throwing good money away on that 20th pair of patterned tights. They might look good in your selfies, but they’re not going to help you learn very much. Spend the money on YOGA instead—go on a retreat, enroll in a workshop to deepen your knowledge about a particular topic, or SCHEDULE A PRIVATE SESSION! Taking private yoga lessons is an investment in your practice—in YOU! (Those Rainbow Bright leggings are going to be out of style next week anyway.)

5 Yoga Poses to Melt Neck Tension + Ease Tension Headaches

I am the queen of tension headaches. OK, maybe it’s more like I’m a slave to tension headaches. Either way. I have a lot of them and they really REALLY suck. Yoga for headaches has been my savior.

My tension headaches creep up when I get caught up in the hustle and bustle of things and haven’t been taking enough time for myself. If only I could just figure out how to slow down, I think I could prevent most of my headaches. Too bad when I’m busy-busy-busy I’m not usually aware enough to recognize that I need to slow down. Sound familiar?

The good news is this: I’ve had a lot of luck finding relief from my tension headaches with yoga and a few key stretches through the top of the shoulders and sides of the neck. I’ll share them with you below. Make sure you give yourself plenty of time to breathe deeply in each posture (that means you have to SLOW DOWN!) Imagine that with every breath the muscles soften and the tension lifts just a bit more.

(Oh, and read through them first so you can turn off your computer, smart phone, tablet, or whatever device you’re looking at—jutting your chin forward to look at that screen is likely part of the problem.)

And, go!

Yoga for Headaches and Neck Tension

1. The Cradle
Rest your head on your arm while you lengthen the side of your neck.

2. Chest Opener
Interlace your hands behind your back and sweep your wrists to the right side of your waist. Gently, squeeze the elbows toward each other. For an even bigger stretch, you may drop your right ear toward your shoulder.

See also 5 Gentle Yoga Poses for Your Yoga Wheel

3. The Pendulum
Come to Standing Forward Bend (Uttanasana) with your feet a little wider than hip distance apart. Bend your knees softly. Interlace your fingers and cup them at the base of the skull. Let your head hang and use the weight of your hands to give some traction to your neck as you gently sway from side to side.

4. Thread the Needle
From hands and knees sweep your right arm under your torso and bring your right should to the floor. Rest the side of your head on the floor and relax your neck. Creep your left fingertips forward creating lots of space through the side body, first. Exhaling, reach your left hand around your back and catch your right hip or thigh. Open the chest by moving the head of the left should back. Take deep breaths. Come back to hands and knees and repeat to the other side.

5. Child’s Pose 
Make sure you press the spot between your eyebrows down on the floor and release any tension in face.

UPDATE 2018: Here’s a FREE video practice to help you melt tension!

Other things that can help with headaches:

Peppermint Tea
Peppermint tea can be a good way to soothe a tension headache. The scent of peppermint is known to help ease headaches. Also, since it’s a hot tea, you have to slow down to drink it.

Peppermint Essential Oil
Peppermint essential oil diluted with a carrier oil (like coconut) and applied around the hairline and the back of the neck can also be a powerful cure.

Lavender Scented Eye Pillow
A lavender scented eye pillow during Savasana or Legs up the Wall can work wonders for a headache.

Lavender Essential Oil
Also try diffusing Lavender essential oil or applying it topically to the back of the neck.

What’s your go-to remedy when you get a headache?

Read more…
A Yoga Practice for Confidence + Self Acceptance
10 Ways You’re Stressing Yourself Out
5 Ways to Find More Freedom on Your Yoga Mat

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10 Ways You’re Stressing Yourself Out

I’m used to writing about yoga strategies for easing muscle tension, calming the nervous system, and just, well, learning how to chill out and relax. Yoga and meditation are probably the BEST thing there is to help when we go all crazy pants and stress out over our made up problems (I say made up because if you really think about it most of the things we stress out about are ideas we come up in our own minds—things that haven’t actually happened, but we think could happen. For example, If I don’t meet this deadline and hit this project out of the park I’m going to get fired. I’m never going to get the house cleaned on time for my house guests, and then my friends will think I’m a slob. If I don’t stop eating cupcakes I’m going to die of heart attack. Notice all the future tense words in those sentences?)

But you know what? I’ve found an even better strategy for reducing stress. Prevention. We can do yoga for half our day, meditate every morning, and stretch every tense muscle to the max, but if we’re not willing to make some simple lifestyle changes necessary to help us not get so stressed out in the first place, we’re fighting a losing battle. Believe me. I’ve done it.

Not interested? Fine. Just keep right on doing these things:

Photo by Seth Workheiser, used with Creative Commons license

1. Pack your calendar full of work, meetings, parties, dinner dates, coffee dates, play dates, and family obligations, and never leave yourself one second of spontaneous do-whatever-the-hell-I-want-to time.

2.  Be so laid back and adverse to planning that you put nothing on your calendar. Instead you prefer to fly by the seat of your pants, and realize 2 hours before your deadline that you haven’t even started ___(fill in the blank)___ project, there’s nothing to eat for dinner, the dishes are piled to the ceiling, and you have no clean clothes to wear for your presentation tomorrow.

3. Compare your life to the perfect, polished appearance your friends share on their social media profiles. Compare your backbend to elite-gymnast girl on the other side of the yoga studio. Compare your lawn to the guy’s across the street, your bank account to your colleague’s, and your backside to Kim Kardashian’s—then beat yourself up for not measuring up, and go crazy doing everything in your power to make your life as good as someone else’s. Make sure you’re doing it, not because you actually want/need the things they have to be happy, but because you don’t like losing. Yup. Knock yourself out.

4. Be too busy to make yourself real food. Eat mostly just “foods” you get from a drive through, a  shiny bag, or out of a tub. (Whatever you do, do NOT plan your meals in advance and stock your freezer with healthy dinners you can grab in a pinch because, after all, you like to be stressed out and frantic, right?)

5.  Avoid sunshine. Stay inside all day, preferably sitting in front of your computer, iPhone, iPad, TV, or other gadget. Put in 12 hours a day of work, spinning your wheels, thinking the same thoughts, and refreshing your email, and wonder why you never get anything done.

6.  Never, ever exercise.

7. Have lots of unrealistic expectations of how your partner, friends, family, and co-workers should treat you. Expect them to read your mind. Then, get really upset and disappointed when they don’t actually behave like the characters from your favorite Disney movie, romantic comedy, or sitcom. (Ross would NEVER have said that to Rachel!)

8. File your taxes on April 15, better yet, be late! Also, never contribute to your retirement, don’t buy health insurance, and don’t even think about negotiating a better salary, business deal, or a raise.

9. Go to the airport late. Let running through airport terminals with a rolling carry-on be your only form of exercise. Oh, and eat lots of airport food when you make it to your gate!

10. Speaking of airports, never take a vacation. Don’t take breaks during your work day. Go to bed late and get up early. And always ALWAYS leave before Savasana.

Disclaimer: Before you start thinking I’m all high and mighty, know that I’ve done (and often still do) everything on this list. But I’m a firm believer that awareness is the first step to transformation—maybe it will be step in the right direction for you, too.

Does any of this sound familiar to you? How do you sabotage your own peace and calm?

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Healing after a Miscarriage

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I’m so pissed off at my body right now.

And, no, it’s not about how my body looks. After 10-plus years of practicing yoga, I’ve learned to accept (and even kind of like) my dimpled thighs, jiggly butt, and that soft squish that will forever be my lower belly after having my daughter. That’s powerful stuff, and it’s a big reason why I work so hard to share this practice with others, but I’m not sure yoga can help me with the body issues I have now.

I’m pissed off at my body because I don’t know where else to direct my anger. About a month ago, it was my body that recognized that my pregnancy I wanted so much wasn’t viable. At 9 weeks gestation, this body that I’ve been learning to love and appreciate, began the process of eliminating a baby that I already loved.

The time of arrival would have been around the end of September. I had already visited the birth center, and begun imagining how this birth would be different than my first. I felt strong and empowered, having so much more information and knowledge than the first time around. I knew how I wanted to decorate the room that would become the baby’s room. I made it official with my insurance company. I envisioned trips to the beach this summer, belly big and round as I soaked up every moment I could and played with my almost-3-year-old daughter, just the two of us, both preparing ourselves for how things might change when the baby comes. When I finished reading bedtime stories that mention sibling relationships to my daughter, I would look down at her, smile sweetly, and ask: “Do you think you might like to have a little brother or sister some day?” Of course, she would. And I want that for her so much. Heartbreaking.

I knew that statistically 20-25 percent of all known pregnancies end in miscarriage—I just never thought I would be a part of that statistic. It doesn’t make any sense at all. I am not of “advanced maternal age.” I exercise. I take my vitamins. I meditate. I put freaking greens in my morning smoothies, for crying out loud! And I’ve already had one completely normal, healthy pregnancy that resulted in the most amazing little girl. Seriously… What. The. Hell!?

The real kicker? There’s nothing I can do to prevent it from happening again.

I feel betrayed… by my own body. I know in my mind that my body did exactly what it should have done. It built the infrastructure to grow a person. My belly, even at just 9 weeks, had already begun to stick out (visible to all observant students in my yoga classes, I’m sure, because there’s no hiding a belly in yoga clothes). I know logically that it’s a good thing that my body made the call to get rid of that infrastructure and flush everything out (a process that’s much more gruesome and physically difficult than I’d ever imagined) because it saved me from having to have a D&C procedure. I know that had the pregnancy continued on for longer, it would have been even more painful, though it’s hard to imagine more pain right now. I know all of this, and yet I’m still pissed off.

At the same time, I’m working toward forgiveness—for myself, my body, that one glass of wine I drank the day before I had a positive pregnancy test. I’m spending more time with my daughter, though every time I hug her I ache for the little one I’ll never be able to hug. I’m coping with the grief, and trying to learn to love my body again the only way I know how—by spending more time on my yoga mat, feeling my breath, being present in my body, and accepting ALL the feelings that come up (SO many feelings). And I’m writing about it, in hopes that sharing my story will be both therapeutic for me and offer support to others who are in the same place I am: Angry, sad, lost, lonely, hurt, shocked, and slowly—but surely—healing.

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Step Three

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I'm Erica. I'm a yoga teacher who helps pregnant and new mamas find more balance in their life through yoga, mindfulness, self-care, inspiration, community, and humor. I spoil my yoga students rotten (in a good way!), and it's my mission to teach mamas that it's not selfish to spoil themselves every now and then, too.

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