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Plastic Yoga Teacher

There’s a new yoga teacher on the block… She’s got blonde hair, big boobs, wears too much make up, and I hear she lives in a beach house in Malibu and drives a pink convertible–totally missing the whole point of the practice. She’s superficial and materialistic and, you know, plastic.

Introducing Yoga Teacher Barbie! (Coming soon to a Target near you!)

It’s ironic, really. All the things that have always made us shake our heads about the unattainable (and maybe a little warped) idea of perfection this iconic doll represents are the very thing that make her such an imperfect yoga teacher. She falls short of what many of us consider the ideal–health conscious, strong but flexible, humble, spiritually awakened, esoteric. Big boobed, anorexic Barbie just doesn’t fit the bill. Sorry Barbie! We don’t want your kind here.

It’s true. We LOVE to tell everyone how great yoga is for all body types. But we were talking about seniors, disabled, plus size and, well, men–not waif-like blondes and their cutesy designer dogs. (Although, maybe Barbie has a rescue Chihuahua.)

It’s not all bad news, though. Yoga Teacher Barbie is part of the “I Can Be…” line of dolls that includes Engineer, Architect, Pet Vet, and Dentist Barbie. If yoga teacher is a career as desirable as engineer, it gives a lot of us more prestige and, dare I say, validates it as a profession that takes lots of skill and training. I’m just glad Barbie isn’t giving up her other day jobs to pursue her dream of teaching yoga. After all a lot of teacher training programs require the salary of an architect (before the housing bubble burst) just for tuition.

Besides, if this doll sparks just a few little girls’ interest learning more about the practice or enrolling in a kids yoga class, I think it’s great! It might just set them on the path of a lifelong journey that we all know teaches self-acceptance, confidence to try new things, and positive body image.

On the Mat Again…

Here’s a little ditty I wrote during my recovery from childbirth (to the tune of “On the Road Again” by Willie Nelson”.

On the mat again –
Just can’t wait to get on the mat again.
The life I love is moving, stretching, breathing.
And I can’t wait to get on the mat again.

Tryin’ poses that I’ve never done.
My mid-section like a rag I wrung.
And I can’t wait to get on the mat again.

Thanks, Willie!

What Not to Wear: Yoga Mamas

UPDATED December 2015: As a prenatal yoga teacher I see lots of different moms. Sometimes I’ll meet a mom when she’s in her first trimester and I’ll get to watch her grow (both physically and in other amazing ways, too!) I love observing as pregnant moms start to find their way. Often the first change I see is in the clothing the mamas choose to wear to class. Some moms go all out and buy clothes specifically for their yoga classes while others take the baggy T-shirt route. Here’s the truth: It doesn’t matter what the heck you wear to prenatal yoga class as long as you can move comfortably and feel great about how you look.

However, how you look on the outside often DOES impact how you feel. I know if I wear baggy, saggy pajamas all day, I feel a lot more baggy, saggy, and lethargic. If I get up and put my make up and jewelry on, I feel more energized, more social, and just better about life. Do you feel me?

A Guide to Maternity Yoga Clothes | Pregnancy Yoga, Prenatal Yoga, Yoga Fashion | SpoiledYogi.com

Photo by Sean McGrath

Please know that the advice below isn’t meant to make anyone feel self-conscious about their clothing choices. It’s just a little advice based on what made ME feel good during my own pregnancy.

Tips for Looking and Feeling Amazing In Maternity Yoga Clothes: What NOT To Wear

Here’s my two-cents on prenatal yoga fashion (is that a thing?), and how to avoid some of the most common pitfalls pregnant yoga students make when they try to dress their new, ever-changing bodies.

1. Baggy tops. You’re not fooling anyone, lady. We know that little bump isn’t a beer gut—so you might as well show it off. I was actually amazed that most all of my pre-pregnancy yoga tops worked just as well for pregnancy yoga. Since yoga tops are longer anyway (to accommodate for riding up in Down Dogs and inversions) and are made of stretchy fabric that holds its shape—I didn’t buy even one maternity yoga top.

2. Tops that are too revealing for your new, awesome boobs. There are yoga tops that are great at keeping boobs in place and then there are those that are made for bodies that don’t really have boobs. Luckily, I had a few of the former in my yoga wardrobe because when my girls started growing … they became a lot harder to contain. (And it was just luck, because I didn’t have to worry about that so much before, if you know what I mean.) So here’s my advice to anyone who finds themselves with a little more boob than they once had—make sure you do a few Down Dogs at home before you head to the studio just to be sure you don’t have any potential embarrassing slips. And opt for fuller coverage tops with high neck lines and high back lines (because when boobs grow, they are more likely to fall out the sides of your top, too… Who knew?).

3. All black. This one isn’t SUCH a fashion no-no… but a lot of people think that just because they’re carrying a few extra pounds they need to try to hide in the back row of class in thinning head-to-toe black. Ladies, your belly is adorable. And, trust me, people want to see it. They also want to touch it. Baby talk to it. And ask you when your due date is (I hate due dates…) (And while this can be really annoying, it’s hard to avoid it. That’s a topic for another day.) If you wear all black because you like the way it looks, fine. But don’t do it because you’re trying to hide. We see you, and we think you look radiant!

4. High-waisted yoga pants or leggings. I’m not talking about those stretchy maternity yoga pants–which are actually way more comfortable than the non-yoga variety maternity pants. I’m talking about squeezing your new belly into leggings or yoga pants that were meant for stick-thin yogis who like that “skinny pants” look. This is more of a comfort issue than anything, because while I’m sure the fabric still stretches with you unless the waistband is low enough to sit BELOW your belly, it can’t possibly be comfortable. And there are just too many options that roll down or sit low to wear anything even slightly uncomfortable.

5. Maternity yoga clothes. Again, this is more of a personal preference than a fashion don’t. But I couldn’t bring myself to buy one garment of maternity athletic wear. (Admittedly, a couple of the pieces I borrowed from friends are quite comfy.) It turns out, most of my normal yoga clothes continued to be comfy throughout my 40+ weeks of pregnancy so it just wasn’t necessary for me to buy more. My advice? Pull out your high neckline tops and low-waist and roll down variety yoga pants and wear them as long as you feel comfortable in them. If you get tired of wearing the same pieces over and over, rock the accessories so you feel like the yoga goddess you are.

Love Your Body

Whatever you do celebrate your new curves, rock that baby bump (because you know it looks good on you!), and never EVER let yourself think that your new body can’t look just as fierce in that stretchy Spandex-like material as it did pre-pregnancy. Your body is growing a PERSON )which is freaking amazing!) and you should feel great, confident, and yes, even sexy, while you do it–whether you’re at the yoga studio or the grocery store.

Letting Go of “Expecting”

Due dates suck. I’m adding them to my list of grievances against the American medical system, and you should, too..

Here’s why.

Not only is the thinking intrinsically flawed that every child should reach gestation and be ready to enter the world in exactly 40 weeks time, but the idea every woman’s body should be prepared and ready to go on that same schedule is completely ludicrous. I think it’s even harmful. When this arbitrary date (which at best, can be off by 2 weeks from the get-go) isn’t met, it throws everyone into a frenzy making said woman question her body’s natural abilities to give birth.

Let’s think about this from a yoga perspective. First of all, look around the next time you go to a public yoga class and you’ll see dramatically different body shapes, sizes, and abilities. Some students are naturally flexible and have no problem bending into most any shape. Others are strong and stable–maybe they can’t touch their toes, but they can lift into a handstand in the middle of the room with ease. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle with a tendency toward one or the other. One isn’t better than the other–just different. Yoga teaches us to just experiment and do the practice without judgment from wherever we are. The emphasis is on how far you’ve come over time, not how flexible or strong you are. That’s why it builds confidence and self-esteem at the same time as health and vitality. This is key for opening the body, because the second you start to fill the mind with judgments and self-doubt, the body hardens making it almost impossible to make progress. If you want to open your hamstrings, you relax and breathe and gently fold forward. Why on earth would opening your cervix be any different?

That’s where due dates, and the doctors and midwives that assign them, really miss the mark. They start looking for things that are wrong causing already nervous moms-to-be to panic. (If first-time moms tend to “go late,” I’m convinced this is why.) They order extra ultrasounds to make sure there’s enough fluid and non-stress tests to monitor how well the baby is handling being crammed in your deteriorating placenta. They tell you all the reasons they won’t “let you” stay pregnant past yet another arbitrary date … You start to wonder, is my body just not capable of doing this? That’s when the progress stops. That’s when the drugs come out. That’s why our C-section rate in this county is 33 percent.

Yoga has helped me come a long way in accepting and loving my body as it is. It’s amazing how a nine-month period of seeing doctors, being weighed and measured, and hearing how I stack up (for medical reasons) against thousands of other people’s measurements and statistics has really undone so much of that work on my mat.

Now at four days past my “due date,” I’m going to stop Googling natural ways to induce labor. I’m going to meditate using the mantra “soften to open.” I’m going to clean out my bathtub, light some candles, and listen to some soothing music. Then, the rest of the day, I’m going to curl up on the couch with a good book and my sweet animals. I’m going to stop looking at the clock and/or the calendar, and I’m going to trust my body to do what it was designed to do … in its own time … Thankyouverymuch.

Dear Baby

Dear Baby,

The outside world isn’t so bad. I think you’re going to like it. There are more good people than bad. (And I really believe that even the bad people are mostly just confused.) It’s perfect spring weather here right now, we live close to the beach, and you have your own room!

It feels really REALLY good to stretch out your arms and legs, and it’s kind of Mommy’s specialty. Most mommies can teach their babies how to do normal things like walk and talk, but I can teach you how to stand on your head. Well, maybe not right away, but once your bones fuse together and stuff.

Speaking of heads… if you’re worried about yours coming out a little cone-like, it’s not a big deal. I promise to put a hat on you until it gets round again, and I won’t let Daddy take any embarrassing pictures. (And he’ll want to! Which is why I don’t think it’s fair that you already have so many more things that say “I <3 Daddy” and only ONE thing that says “I <3 Mommy” … but I promise not to bring that up again if you’ll just come soon.)

And did I mention that you have a closet full of adorable clothes already? You’re going to be WAY better dressed than Mommy OR Daddy. The only problem is… I’m worried if you put off making your appearance too much longer, you’re not even going to fit in a lot of the cutest outfits you have! That would be a shame because I’m sure you’re going to look cute in them.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed or not, but I’ve been practicing my rocking skills a lot lately. I’m still new at it, but our sweet dog Penny hasn’t complained, and I think you’ll like it, too.

I’m not saying we’ll be perfect parents. In fact, we’re probably going to screw up a whole lot. (See? I don’t think you’re supposed to say “screw” to a baby.. I’m sure we’ll mess up.. is that better?) Anyway, nobody’s perfect, and we’ll figure out the whole parenthood/kid thing as we go. But what we do know is that we love you already, and we can’t wait to meet you–even if you have a cone head.

Also… I won’t post any naked baby pictures of you on Facebook. I’m not going to name you anything weird. I’ll let you eat candy once you grow teeth. And if you want to wear a tutu and a cape to the grocery store, you will get no argument from me.

See you soon (tomorrow maybe?)!
Mommy

5 Yoga Poses to Induce Labor (That Don’t Work)

Or at least these yoga poses to induce labor haven’t worked for me so far …

OK. To be fair.. most of these poses are designed to open the hips and inner thighs, which could help prepare the body for labor but not necessarily “induce” it.. but people say squats particularly and hip openers might help if you’re at term and ready to go. (I am!)

5 Poses to Induce Labor

(But Don’t Work If You’re Me Because My Baby Doesn’t Want to Come Out and I’m Going to Be Pregnant Forever)

1. Malasana (Garland Pose)

Malasana Garland Pose Yoga Squat | Yoga Poses to Induce Labor | SpoiledYogi.com

2. Goddess Pose

Goddless Pose Wide Legged Squat | Yoga Poses to Induce Labor Pregnancy | SpoiledYogi.com

3. Prasarita Padottanasana (Wide Legged Forward Bend)

Prasarita Paddotanasana Wide Legged Forward Bend | Yoga Poses to Induce Labor Pregnancy | SpoiledYogi.com

4. Baddha Konasana (Cobblers Pose) while pressing the “trigger point” between your ankle bone and heel.

Baddha Konasana Cobblers Pose | Yoga Poses to Induce Labor Pregnancy | SpoiledYogi.com

5. Parivrtta Surya Yantrasana (Compass Pose). A milder modified version of this to open my hips

Compass Pose | Yoga Poses to Induce Labor Pregnancy | SpoiledYogi.com

Other things that don’t work…

Sex

Nipple Stimulation

Spicy Foods

Pineapple

Long Walks

Bouncing on a Yoga Ball

Gardening

Meditating

Massage

Relaxing

Not yet tested…

Patience

Update 2016

Yes, I DID have the baby! Now, she’s a beautiful, almost-4-year-old who is incredibly imaginative—in fact, she nearly gave me a heart attack yesterday when she told me she rode on a bus to a park where she went on a boat ride during preschool yesterday (I hadn’t signed any permission slips!). After planning what I would say when I call the school, she later told me that she had only imagined that boat ride. Having a child with a wild imagination is usually lots of fun… I can’t believe the things that come out of that kid’s mouth sometimes.

What Did I Do to Induce Labor Naturally

When I wrote this post originally, I was very close to giving birth and super annoyed that nothing I did was working. I went to the doctor five days past my due date and they hooked me up to some machine that measured my contractions (I didn’t even know I was having contractions, but apparently I was and they were pretty close together…). They scheduled an induction for at 7am the following morning.. I went home from the doctor that morning, determined to induce myself without the help of drugs. I walked, probably 5-6 miles around my neighborhood, and, ya’ll, it’s already pretty hot in Charleston at the end of April. I took caster oil (just a little bit). Every time I sat down, I bounced on my yoga ball. (And when I say I bounce, I mean I BOUNCED like I meant it.) I also took a bath, and tried the whole nipple stimulation thing to get things going—honestly, it was just the weirdest thing, but I was a woman on a mission. That evening those contractions got stronger. And they started to hurt. I went to the hospital at 11pm, and guess what time the baby came? 7am! The exact time I was scheduled to be induced. We met out deadline, but barely, which is fitting since that’s the way I finish most of my projects.

How would I do things differently next time?

Since 2012, I’ve studied prenatal yoga and was certified to teach. I’ve helped plenty of women all the way up to their due dates (and sometimes even a little bit after). As you can imagine, this has changed my view on pregnancy and birth quite a bit. Here’s what I remind the mamas I work with who have gone past their “due dates.”

Remember that due dates are just estimates. Every woman is different and it’s completely normal and natural for baby to stay in for up to two weeks past that date. Don’t get all worked up about it.

Don’t spend lots of time freaking out and trying to induce baby like I did! If you need to do something with your nervous energy, spend your time doing relaxation exercises. Take warm baths, long Savasanas, and practice deep breathing to soothe your nerves and anxieties.

Most importantly, trust your body to do its thing. You were designed for this. Your body grew an entire person, probably without much intervention from you or anyone else. THAT was the hard part. When it comes to time to birth, let your body handle it. It knows what to do. You’ve got this, mama!

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5 Lessons Learned from the Anusara Scandal

The dust has settled a bit since the news came out that Anusara founder John Friend admitted to misconduct. While I’ve never considered myself an Anusara student, I’ve gained many insights from the Principles of Alignment and have been inspired a great deal by the philosophy. I was deeply saddened and disappointed to see Friend “fall from Grace” (I’m sorry, but does no one else see the humor in that phrase, considering the word Anusara means “flowing with Grace”?), but I think there are a few things to learn from it all.

Here are a few things I took away from it all.

1. We all have inner demons. We are all capable of doing bad things. We all have to work hard to be who we want to be in the world and live a life that we’re proud of. The most inspiring people I know are the ones who wear their faults on their sleeves like a badge of honor and work hard to be a good person in spite of their shortcomings.

2. Corruption often follows power and money. There’s nothing wrong with success. But it’s also easy to let our financial or business ambitions get in the way of what you know is right and who you want to be. (I’m not saying this is what happened with John Friend–I don’t know. But this has been a reminder of the possibility.) For example, maybe it’s working a job you hate that pays the bills but stifles your creativity and you notice you’re grumpy to the people you love most. For me, this was a reminder not to let my quest for money (or your fear of not having enough) stand in the way of who I want to be.

3. Never let your own voice and intuition be overshadowed. Teachers are necessary and can be wonderful for guiding us to greater understanding and even pointing out where we’re going wrong. But as much as we respect and honor our teachers, it’s more important to respect and honor your own intuition and what feels right, even if it’s contradictory to the lessons your teacher is sharing.

4. There is strength in numbers. One of the best things about Anusara Yoga is their community. From an outsiders point of view, it’s obvious that this is a group that cares deeply about each other and is committed to supporting and uplifting each other. Having a strong support system can be great when you need a helping hand, but it also means you have to be strong in your convictions and willing to take a stand (at the risk of alienating those you care about) when you think something isn’t right. We’ve seen many teachers stand up and share their stories in light of the scandal–something that took tremendous courage anyway, but even more because they had to say something that might not have been received that well by their community of peers. So while it’s amazing to be a part of a strong community, it’s important not to let the group mentality cause you to lose your own voice and your own sense of what’s right and wrong.

5. It’s never too late to change. I have full faith that John Friend and the Anusara community will come out of this stronger, more clear about their intentions, and more dedicated to their yoga practice.Will everything be the same as it was a year ago? I hope not. Anusara will be a different organization. The teachers who have left Anusara will move on to other others. But I truly believe that everyone will heal and grow from the experience.

Balancing Poses, Balancing Life

Before I was pregnant if you asked me what poses I’d be practicing daily at 31 weeks pregnant, I probably would have said “Supta Baddha Konasana” or “Legs-Up-the-Wall Pose”… I certainly would not have mentioned balancing poses like Ardha Chandrasana (Half Moon Pose), Vrksasana (Tree Pose), or Virabhadrasana III (Warrior 3 Pose). But with 15 extra pounds on my belly, more flexible joints, and a body changing faster than I’ve ever experienced in my life, I can’t get enough of the very poses that I would think should be the most challenging–the poses that most teachers would caution me to practice next to a wall just in case my changing center of gravity causes me to waver. And they feel effortless.

In fact, I couldn’t feel better.

It’s a beautiful metaphor for life now and what’s to come in my life. When I shift from Triangle Pose to Half Moon, it’s a reminder that I am strong enough to balance this growing baby, my practice, and whatever craziness life puts in my hands. I can do it!

What poses empower you right now?

Stress: A Poem — 3rd Grade Style

S is for Superwoman. I am not.
T is for the Tension I hold in my jaw when I try to do everything all at once.
R is for the sweet Realization that failure is a critical part of growth, not something to fear and obsess over.
E is for Erica…the epitome of stressed out in this moment.
S is for my Shoulders.. and how they creep up toward my ears.
S is for Savasana, Sidebends, Spas, Sipping herbal tea, Sweet friends, Sunny days, Silly pets, and all the other things that help manage the daily stress in my life.

How do you handle the particularly horrible, stressful times?

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